Hey gang. Need your advice on a facial-related matter. You're hardly relationship counsellors but for this kind of thing ... well, you are the specialists.
I've been with the same guy for years. Long-term thing. Maybe a lifer. Built up a lot of trust over the years and we're fairly open with one another. He knows what I like, and I've got to understand what gets him off. One of those things is coming on me. First it was my stomach, then my breasts, then one day when I was right in the throws of orgasm he whispered in my ear that he wanted to come on my face.
Caught me a little off guard, but I'd have agreed to pretty much anything at that point so I sort of grunted "OK". He didn't actually get his wish that day because, apparently, the very idea that I'd agreed to do it sent him over the edge and he wrapped things up slightly earlier than intended. Poor boy.
So then we sort of awkwardly pretended nothing had happened and carried on with our lives. But I could see this was a big deal for him so I did some background reading, found myself on this particularly sordid bit of internet (hello), saw some sexy pictures and discovered that there was a certain appeal. Been loitering around here since.
It's not my favourite thing in the world, but I get turned on by certain pictures and I like the sort of "slutty champ" feeling I get from doing it. Sort of intimate and special and just between the two of us. It's become a regular, if not particularly frequent, part of our sex lives. Just something we enjoy on special occasions, like Fridays, and in the quiet TV season.
And just so this is clear up front, no, we won't be taking and/or sharing any pictures.
So here's the thing. He fucking loves coming on my face. It is a big deal for him. Sometimes he's gentle and loving, and teases me to a long, drawn out orgasm before politely asking for permission. Or he'll tie me up and want me to beg for his cum while he calls me his slut. Other times he's aggressive and wants to face-fuck me and then grip my hair and just unleash. All of these are fine and turn me on when I'm in the right mood. But the second he comes, it all falls away, and he's shy and a bit embarassed by the whole thing.
It's sad because before he comes he's all caught-up in the moment, and he has quite elaborate requests. He tells me he wants me to beg to taste him, or that he's going to cum on my lips so I can lick it off, or, when I'm tied up, he says he's going to come on my face then leave me there until he's hard enough to fuck me again.
This is all pretty arousing. But the second he's orgasmed, or possibly even during, he instantly gets apologetic. Out come the tissues and sensitive compliments, off come the handcuffs. The weekend before last he told me that he was going to come in my mouth but that I wasn't to swallow it until he gave me permission, so that he could watch me play with it. One hot mouthful later he's meekly telling me I should swallow and thank you and that was nice of me and I look pretty and how was my day?
So I don't really mind that these things never come to pass. Though I find it all pretty hot at the time, I think what turns me on is knowing how much it turns him on, and if he's no longer aroused then that's fine and the moment has passed. But I do sort of feel sad for him, that he never gets to live out his myriad fantasies of sticky fun. Feels incomplete to get all hyped up and then just switch straight to the kiss and cuddle.
Here's my question (and apologies for the long rambling setup... though I hope some of you got a kick out of it.)
- Guys: is this normal, ie does this happen to you? Have you ever managed to follow-through on the after-party, or does the clock strike midnight and everything turn into pumpkins?
- Girls: is your guys all talk? Have you ever been with someone who stuck with the plan? Are you fine with that (maybe even glad), or if not, have you got any tips for encouraging him to continue?
Much, and occasionally sticky, love to you all.
CJx